What is Cooperative Divorce?

Along with Collaboration and Mediation, you may sometimes hear the term "Cooperative Divorce". Cooperative Divorce is not a form of Alternative Dispute Resolution like Collaboration and Mediation, but is rather a way of approaching a traditional litigated divorce. There are no special rules or pr...

Civility Matters in Divorce

I recently read an article by Carol Bailey-Medwell on Why Civility Matters. Carol manages Integrative Family Law, a firm that shares many of the same values we hold here at Seattle Divorce Services. Recently I had the pleasure of reading one of her articles in a member's publication, and I thought...

“Compassionate Divorce” – My Thoughts on an Article by Roger B. Ley

I just read an article in our local Bar magazine, NWLawyer, by attorney Roger B. Ley on Compassionate Divorce. Basically, Roger's thesis is that kindness gets better results than vindictiveness. I agree wholeheartedly! Roger points out that when one side to a divorce makes room for thinking about...

Alternatives to Costly Divorce Litigation

Some people like to joke that the only thing about a marriage that is more expensive than a wedding is a divorce. In fact, in a high conflict divorce there can be a huge emotional cost in addition to the financial, and it can drag on for quite a while. If your marriage is coming to an end, and yo...

Your Divorce Doesn’t Have To Be A Zero Sum Game

By Nathan Cliber - Attorney at Seattle Divorce Services Divorce doesn’t have to be a zero sum game. It’s common wisdom that nobody “wins” in a divorce. While this is often true, it doesn’t mean that everyone has to lose. The greatest losses in any divorce come from fighting. The damage done by fig...

Early Mediation: How it Works

When seemingly irreconcilable differences arise in a marriage, sometimes the only option that seems possible is the choice with the most finality - litigating the issues through the courts. However, early mediation can produce agreements over division of property and liabilities, support, and parent...

The Problem With Escalating Conflict

Too often people believe that the best way to deal with conflict is to "fight fire with fire". If they are accused of something, they accuse back. If they are yelled at, they yell back. If attacked in any way, they attack back. The problem with this approach is that it just fuels the fire, and ever...

The Collaboration Option – by Theresa Lorella

By Theresa Lorella Attorney at Seattle Divorce Services Many of the tools that have been discussed in the previous articles in this series that aid parties in lowering conflict and arriving at settlement agreements, have come to us from the world of Collaborative Law. Most Collaborative cases invol...

The Mediation Option – by Theresa Lorella

By Theresa Lorella Attorney at Seattle Divorce Services In the previous posts in this series, we have explored methods to move a litigation case into a more cooperative setting or to begin a litigation filing with the express intent of remaining cooperative. For those who are firmly committed to a...

The Hybrid “Cooperative Divorce” by Theresa Lorella

By Theresa Lorella Attorney at Seattle Divorce Services As described in the previous post, many people are hoping they can avoid the costs—emotional and financial—of litigating a divorce or legal separation from their partner. In the first article, I discussed how to potentially reduce the conflict...