Collaborative divorce is a nonadversarial way for divorce attorneys to work together to help their respective clients resolve their divorce issues. Collaboration offers a process for managing conflict without a third-party decision maker. In a collaborative process, we seek to help the parties handle their conflict without causing further damage to the relationship and to transition their marriage/partnership into a new form of relationship, particularly when they need to be able to continue to function as co-parents.
To determine whether you qualify for collaborative divorce services, we need to discuss whether you and your spouse both:
- Want to stop fighting
- Have the ability, with help, to listen to each other
- Are willing to work at learning the communication skills it will take to problem-solve together
In a collaborative divorce case, the focus is on providing a safe, peaceful, and respectful process for both parties. We meet together to plan ways to resolve the issues. By approaching the issues as mutual problems to resolve, we treat them as the problem rather than treating the other party as such.
You and your spouse will typically work with a professional divorce team in a collaborative divorce case, including two collaborative lawyers, a financial specialist, a divorce coach, and a child specialist. The purpose of this divorce team is to help manage conflict, encourage respectful problem-solving, and assist you in crafting the settlement that best fits you and your family.
If you are interested in handling your divorce (or other family law action) through a collaborative process, you will need to talk to the other party and encourage him or her to find an attorney trained in collaborative law. We can supply you with a list of collaborative attorneys we think highly of.
We encourage you to take a look at our collaboration attorney profiles to find the best fit for your needs. If you are unsure of what to ask or how to look for the right divorce attorney, contact us and we’ll be happy to help match you with the right attorney for your situation.