Collaborative Divorce is a non-adversarial way for divorce attorneys to work together to help their respective clients resolve their divorce issues. Collaboration offers a process for managing conflict without a third party decision maker. In a Collaborative process we seek to help the parties handle their conflict without causing further damage to the relationship, and to help them transition their spouse/partner relationship into a new form of relationship, particularly when they need to be able to continue to function as co-parents.
Qualifying for Collaborative Divorce services means we need to discuss whether you and your spouse both:
- WANT to stop fighting?
- Have the ability, with help, to listen to each other?
- Are willing to work at learning the communication skills it will take to problem solve together?
In a Collaborative Divorce case the focus is on providing a safe, peaceful and respectful process for both parties. We meet together to plan ways to resolve the issues. By approaching the issues as mutual problems to be resolved, we treat the issues as the problem rather than the other side.
In a Collaborative divorce case, you and your spouse will typically work with a professional divorce team including two Collaborative lawyers, a financial specialist, a divorce coach, and a child specialist. The purpose of this divorce team is to help manage conflict, encourage respectful problem solving, and assist you in crafting the settlement that best fits you and your family.
If you are interested in handling your divorce (or other family law action) through a Collaborative process, you will need to talk to the other party about this process and encourage him or her to find an attorney trained in Collaborative Law. We can supply you with a list of Collaborative attorneys we think highly of.