A Seattle Child Custody Lawyer for All Your Custody Issues

Surprisingly, under Washington Law there really is no such thing as “child custody”. Still many people will search for us under Seattle child custody lawyer, and I will continue to use the term child custody on this page simply because that is the common term people know.

Our legislature got rid of most custody language several decades ago and substituted the term “parenting plan”. While this can sound like playing with words, the idea was both to get away from the notion that a child is awarded to one parent or the other, and to instead emphasize the role of both parents in raising a child.

Equality Is Not Required in Washington Child Custody Arrangements

This does not mean, however, that parenting time is necessarily equal in a parent plan. Ultimately the court is more concerned with what it feels is best for the child rather than what is most fair to the parents. There may be various reasons for having the child with one parent more than the other, including:

  • Not disrupting school and homework – this often (but not always) means having a schedule that keeps the child in one home during the school week
  • Where each parent resides – distance between their residences can affect what will work well (extended frequent travel time is not a plus)
  • The parenting skill of each parent – the issue is not so much who is better, but whether each parent is adequate
  • The child’s feelings about the parenting schedule – the child may be interviewed by a court appointed investigator
  • Extracurricular activities – the child’s schedule might affect where the child needs to be at certain times of the week
  • A history of abusive behavior by a parent – this may require limitations on a parent’s time with the child

Since our courts avoid using child custody language, when one parent has more time than the other parent, we usually refer to that parent as the “primary residential parent”. The other parent is often then said to have “visitation” time, though this term would seem to run counter to the notion of emphasizing the importance of the roles of both parents. Perhaps “other residential parent” would be better.

The Residential Schedule for Child Custody

In developing a child custody parenting schedule or parenting agreement, the court generally wants to have it specific enough that at any given time it is clear which parent has the right to be with the child. Your Seattle child custody lawyer can help you with this. The need for detail is to avoid disputes as to where the child should be at any given time. The court does not want you having to come back to for a hearing when issues arise, rather the answer to any dispute should be “look at the parenting plan”. A typical arrangement will start with the regular weekly schedule, then make exceptions for school vacations and holidays. For instance, how are the parents going to handle Thanksgiving if both parents have family traditions around the holiday?

A child custody parenting schedule may also look very different if the parents live a long distance from each other or one decides to relocate. If one parent is in Seattle and the other in San Francisco, it is not realistic to talk about alternating weekends. In those cases it may be necessary to have the school time with one parent and school breaks mostly with the other.

Other Parenting Issues Handled by Our Seattle Child Custody Lawyers

Parenting plans deal with may other issues besides time, and again your Seattle child custody lawyer will help you with these. There are also sections on:

  • joint decision making – generally both parents should be involved in major decisions affecting the child, such as educational issues and medical care
  • dispute resolution -usually there will be a process, such as mediation, that the parents need to follow before bringing future custody or parenting issues back to the court
  • unique situations that arise with same sex couples – such as the parental status of both parents
  • transportation between the parents – this is especially important when the parents do not live close to each other, or there is significant parental conflict
  • relocation (moving out of the area) – when a parent moves out of the area, prior notice is required so that any needed changes to the custody arrangements can be worked out
  • “other” matters. This is where we can address special concerns that have been raised, such as rights to care for the children when the scheduled parent is unavailable.

What Will My Child Be Asked in a Custody Proceeding?

Judges do not like to have children testify in court. Doing so would put them in a very difficult position with regard to loyalty to both parents as well as cause significant emotional strain. If the court wants information from a child, they generally ask the court appointed investigator to interview the child and report back. If you have concerns, make sure you discuss them with your Seattle child custody lawyer.

There is an interesting rule that among other factors the court can consider “the wishes of a child who is sufficiently mature to express reasoned and independent preferences as to his or her residential schedule”. Maturity in this context does not refer to the age of the child so much as the degree to which the reasons given represent mature thinking. So a child that says I would like to live with Mom/Dad because they buy me stuff is not showing very mature reasoning. On the other hand, a child who says Dad/Mom is better at providing an environment for me to get my homework done is giving a more mature reason. However, it is very important the you NOT try to coach your child on what to say. This will often come out and can be a strong mark against you.

Usually, however, the interviewer will try to avoid direct questions like “which parent would you prefer to live with” which tend to put the child on the spot. Instead they are likely to ask more indirect questions like “tell me about your parents” and “what do you like to do with each parent”. Some children are very conscious of not saying anything negative about either parent and trying to keep it neutral, while other children have strong opinions that they will make a point of stating.

A Seattle Child Custody Lawyer Can Help with Proving a Parent is Unfit

Keep in mind that when we talk about winning custody, we are usually referring to gaining the majority of time with the child (primary residential parent), not full time and not full control. Since the courts want to preserve as much relationship with both parents as possible, parenting plans are structured to keep both parents involved. Even an abusive parent might have limited contact with the child, such as supervised visitation where the child is protected but still has the opportunity to know the parent.

What Evidence Will I Need To Win Custody?

In a standard divorce where both parents are fit parents, but the court is being asked to choose one as the primary residential parent (typically this refers to the one the children will be with during the school week), a court may form a negative opinion of a parent who tries to run down the other parent. This may actually be seen as a sign that the parent is not able to separate out their own feelings from what is best for the children. A more positive approach may work better, pointing out what you bring to parenting (special skills or training, availability, etc.)  and how you plan to include and work with the other parent.

If you believe the other parent really is unfit, you will need to provide specific factual evidence. Your child custody lawyer can help you determine what evidence will be most helpful. If there has been abuse, medical reports can be helpful, as can pictures of injuries. Eye witness accounts of abuse may help as well. In these cases it is very important to work with the parenting investigator, supplying them with the information you have as well as names and contact information for people who have knowledge. It is important to keep the information provided as factual as possible. Going on rants about how awful the other person is do not help, rather they make you look angry and vindictive. Present your facts and let the other person (investigator or judge) decide for themselves.

The Importance of Positive Evidence

Interestingly, if you can provide positive information on top of the negative facts about the other parent, this may actually help you be taken more seriously. For instance, you could say the other parent is generous and cares about the children, but loses their temper and become violent too easily.

Often parents provide declarations from various friends and family that have little factual information in them. I often call these “good Mom/Dad” declarations. They are pretty much useless and are largely ignored. It does not help for outside people to say you are a good parent/spouse/person, to repeat stories you have told them about the other parent, or generally offer their opinions about what should happen. If they have witnessed something specific that your Seattle child custody lawyer thinks would be helpful, that is the declaration you should obtain.

Contact an Experienced Seattle Child Custody Lawyer Today

When you need a Seattle child custody lawyer, give us a call to make an appointment for an initial consultation where we can further discuss the specifics of your case. Call 286-784-3049 today or use the form on our website to schedule a meeting with one of our family law attorneys.

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