Does My Ex Get Custody of Our Child if I Die?

I was recently asked whether a parent could provide in her will for who would take care of her child if that parent died. She was concerned that the child's father was not up to adequately caring for the child. I had to let her know despite any provisions in a will, the other parent would normally b...

Positive Consequences

In legal matters we often impose negative consequences to change behavior. However, using positive consequences may in many cases work better. Basically, a negative consequence is a punishment, while a positive consequence is a reward....

Tips for Negotiating Relationships with Grandparents during a Divorce

Former corporate lawyer turned parenting blogger KJ Dell’Antonia recently wrote a great article about parenting and divorce. Often, not just the parents are negotiating the time they will spend with their children post-divorce but the grandparents as well. So, how do you navigate the murky waters of...

Seattle Attorney Carol Bailey on Amicable Divorce

Carol Bailey is an attorney here in Seattle with a strong interest in more peaceful divorce processes. In an article in the Seattle PI blog last February, she talked about amicable divorce, making several very good points....

Positive Co-Parenting

The traditional popular view of divorce assumes that after the divorce there is going to be a state of constant war between divorced parents. However, many couples have bucked that trend and found ways to work with each other cooperatively with co-parenting after divorce. When this happens, not only...

Special Parenting Plan Considerations for Teachers

If teachers with children are going through divorce, their occupation raises some aspects which should be considered when drafting the parenting plan’s residential schedule (what used to be called custody and visitation.)...

What is a Parenting Plan?

If you are divorcing and have children under 18, a parenting plan is a handy tool that is required by courts. You and your spouse, or former spouse, can use the parenting plan as a guideline for responsibly sharing parenting responsibilities. A parenting plan is a way for both parties to come to...

Tips for Sharing Parenting of Your Children

Generally, each parent has an equal right to participate in parenting, and it's no longer a given that primary parenting will go to the mother. A growing number of divorced couples are deciding to actively co-parent their minor children. Sharing parenting can be difficult after a divorce, but it ca...