Sophisticated Solutions to Complex Divorce

Sophisticated Solutions to Complex Divorces - Seattle Divorce Services

What does it mean when we say “our divorce attorneys believe in taking a more sophisticated approach to resolving complex cases”?

Many divorce cases are complex. That does not necessarily mean the cases involve great wealth or unusual issues. It does mean there there may be issues of parenting, child or spousal support, property division, etc. that do not lend themselves to easy solutions. Support issues may be complicated by uncertain incomes. Parenting issues may be complicated by differences of opinion about what is best for the children. Property division may be complicated by issues of separate and community property or value of the property.

And all of these issues may be intertwined such that the answer to one affects another (determining income for support may also affect property division, and determining a parenting schedule may affect support). [Read more…]

What is Cooperative Divorce?

What is Cooperative Divorce? - Seattle Divorce Services

Along with Collaboration and Mediation, you may sometimes hear the term “Cooperative Divorce”. Cooperative Divorce is not a form of Alternative Dispute Resolution like Collaboration and Mediation, but is rather a way of approaching a traditional litigated divorce.

There are no special rules or procedures associated with a Cooperative Divorce, but it does mean that the two sides (and particularly the attorneys) try to cooperate with each other to the extent possible to help the case resolve as simply and cost-effectively as possible. [Read more…]

Can I Modify My Spousal Support?

Can I Modify My Spousal Support - Seattle Divorce Services Blog

In Washington, spousal support, also known as alimony or maintenance, is modifiable under some conditions.

First, the decree of divorce must have NOT ordered non-modifiable spousal support. Second, there must be a “substantial change of circumstances”. I would add, however, that in my experience, spousal support modifications tend to be disfavored by the courts (i.e. you need to have a VERY good case). [Read more…]

Civility Matters in Divorce

I recently read an article by Carol Bailey-Medwell on Why Civility Matters.

Civility Matters in Divorce - Carol Bailey

Carol Bailey with Integrative Family Law

Carol manages Integrative Family Law, a firm that shares many of the same values we hold here at Seattle Divorce Services. Recently I had the pleasure of reading one of her articles in a member’s publication, and I thought I’d share some of her insights.

I particularly liked Carol’s point that short term revenge seeking is not a good basis for long term happiness, and may also have negative consequences for family, friends, and children when it impacts relationships that will continue in one form or another into the future. [Read more…]

How Are Retirement Benefits Divided in Divorce?

Retirement benefits and divorce - Seattle Divorce Services

This might also be titled “What is a QDRO?”, but the answer is really bigger than that. Some people assume that because retirement benefits were earned by the one party and is in her or his name, it is not subject to division.

In fact, retirement benefits are considered community property and so are subject to division in divorces in Washington State. [Read more…]

Nathan Cliber: Strategies That Help the Client

Nathan Cliber: How to Help the Client - Seattle Divorce Services

Nathan Cliber

I asked Nathan Cliber, an attorney here at Seattle Divorce Services, about ways that he helps the client navigate the tricky and challenging currents of their divorce.

He said that he finds it is very important to hold space for the client to be heard. Too many attorneys spend too much time talking about what they are going to do for the client, and don’t spend enough time listening to the hopes and concerns of the client.

When the client is able to have their own voice in the divorce process, they are empowered to be a part of the team and help determine the direction we go in, to make choices about their own future. [Read more…]

How Do I Get More Time with My Children?

Can I get More Time with My Children?

We often hear from parents who are unhappy with their current parenting plan and want to have more time with their children. While the standard you have to meet for modifying a parenting plan is a tough one, there are several options to consider:

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A Discussion With Nathan Cliber On His Approach To Practice

I recently had a chance to have a discussion with Nathan Cliber, one of our attorneys at Seattle Divorce Services, about his approach to practicing Family Law.

A Discussion with Nathan Cliber About His Approach to Family Law

Nathan Cliber

Nathan said a key to his approach is spending time listening to the client. He believes that it is important to “engage with people as people”. When asked what that means, he explained that he wants to get to know the individual and understand who they are. He wants to make sure the people who come to him never feel like generic clients on an assembly line.

Every person is different, with their own needs and desires, their own unique relationships with their family members, and their own ideas about divorce. By getting to know the client as a whole human being, he can customize his approach to working on that client’s case to fit that client’s individual circumstances. [Read more…]

Should I File My Divorce in Lincoln County?

Should I Divorce in Lincoln County?

Many people in Washington have heard of the “Lincoln County Divorce” and wonder if that is a good way to go. To my mind, the cons tend to outweigh the pros.

Many paralegal services that help people with divorces like to use Lincoln County because the divorce there can all be done by mail. Therefore the service can handle the divorce for their clients without having to actually appear in court (which they generally are not allowed to do).

On the other hand, most attorneys will file in their local county as there is no restriction on them doing so and there is little advantage to going out of county. [Read more…]

“Compassionate Divorce” – My Thoughts on an Article by Roger B. Ley

"Compassionate Divorce" by Roger B. Ley - a Review

I just read an article in our local Bar magazine, NWLawyer, by attorney Roger B. Ley on Compassionate Divorce. Basically, Roger’s thesis is that kindness gets better results than vindictiveness.

I agree wholeheartedly!

Roger points out that when one side to a divorce makes room for thinking about the welfare of the other party in addition to their own, that opens the door to creative thinking. With creative, compassionate, cooperative thinking comes the ability to maximize the outcome for the benefit of all involved, including any children.

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